BreakBread Dinners are small intimate gatherings where the most important thing you bring to the table is your presence. Your being. Committing with vigor is the first step in being present. It’s saying “Hell yes! I will show up!”. And, being present is hard to do sometimes so it’s not about doing it perfectly but it’s the spirit in which we do it.
Know that within any true invitation is the implicit option to decline (otherwise it wouldn’t be an invitation, it would be a demand or an obligation – uggh!). So, if you cannot commit with vigor there’s nothing wrong with stating such. The time or the opportunity might not be right. And, clearly stating “Sorry, I cannot (or will not) commit with vigor.” is, paradoxically, committing with vigor.
We believe committing with vigor (or graciously declining with vigor) supports healthy, loving, and respectful relationships. Boundaries, honesty, and clarity are foundational to building trust and connection.